You aren’t going crazy.
I promise.
Specialized therapy for narcissistic abuse, coercive control, and children of narcissistic parents.
Private Pay Telehealth in Arizona | Trauma Recovery Coaching Nationwide
Unless you’ve lived through narcissistic abuse, you just don’t get it.
It doesn't always look the same. But it always feels like this.
Maybe it was a partner. Maybe it was a parent. Maybe it was both, and you have spent most of your life not fully understanding why you keep ending up in the same dynamic.
Am I crazy? Why is this person so different around other people? I used to be so capable, but now I second-guess everything. They never hit me, so why am I so afraid of making them angry? I could have sworn I remembered that correctly. Am I losing it?
Why don't I know what I want? Why do I feel guilty for having needs? Why does it feel like I have spent my whole life trying to earn something that never came?
If any of that sounds familiar, you are in the right place.
Narcissistic abuse and coercive control are not about anger. They are about power.
Narcissistic abuse is a slow, insidious process of breaking down another person's reality. It is a strategic pattern of behavior designed to strip away your autonomy, isolate you from your support system, and make you entirely dependent on the person controlling you.
Coercive control is how it operates in practice. It is the monitoring of your time, your money, and your relationships. It is the subtle threats masked as "concern." It is the constant, exhausting management of someone else's moods so you don't trigger an explosion or a days-long silent treatment. It is the slow unraveling of who you are until you no longer recognize the person looking back at you in the mirror.
When it comes from a parent, it is all of that — and it starts before you ever had a chance to know who you were. You didn't get to form an identity separate from their needs. You learned that love was conditional on your compliance. You learned to make yourself small, or useful, or invisible. And now, as an adult, you are living in a self you were never fully allowed to build.
That is a specific kind of grief. And it deserves a specific kind of attention.
Traditional talk therapy can often do more harm than good when you are dealing with a highly antagonistic or narcissistic personality — whether that person is a current partner, an ex, or a parent. You do not need a therapist who will play devil's advocate or tell you there are "two sides to every story."
My approach is grounded in deep validation, specialized training in personality disorders and abuse dynamics, and a profound respect for your autonomy. I know how disorienting it is to try to explain this to people who haven't lived it. You will not have to convince me that it's bad enough. You will not have to translate the subtleties of the control.
We will work together to name what happened, understand the mechanics of the abuse, and begin the slow, steady work of rebuilding your capacity to trust your own mind. For those who grew up in it, we will also do the work of asking a question that may feel unfamiliar: who are you, outside of who you were told to be?
That is not a small question. But it is the right one.
Therapy that actually understands the mechanics of control.
I am certified to treat survivors through Dr. Ramini Durvasula, a leading expert in the treatment of narcissistic abuse.
I have specialized training in personality disorders, abuse dynamics, and complex relational trauma. More importantly, I have lived through it myself. I understand this from the inside.
You do not have to have made a decision about the relationship to begin this work. You do not have to have left. You do not have to have fully named it yet. Healing can start exactly where you are.
I will not urge you to leave. I will not tell you to stay. I will not gaslight you into believing you are the problem. I will simply hold a space for you to make sense of your world — and, slowly, to find your way back to yourself.
You are not broken.
Narcissistic abuse can leave you feeling irreparably damaged. You may not recognize yourself anymore — the things you used to know about yourself, what you want, what you feel, what you trust, can feel impossibly far away.
We work at a pace that honors wherever you are. Whether this is the first time you have reached out for support, or you have been in therapy before and are looking for something different, I will meet you where you are.
Frequently Asked Questions
-
Yes. Narcissistic abuse is almost never physical. It operates through psychological and emotional mechanisms — gaslighting, intermittent reinforcement, isolation, reality distortion, and the slow erosion of your sense of self. The absence of physical violence does not make it less real, less damaging, or less worthy of specialized support. If you are questioning your own reality, that is one of the most telling signs that something was wrong.
-
You don't need a diagnosis to begin this work — and honestly, chasing one can keep you stuck. What matters is the impact on you: how you feel in the relationship, how you feel about yourself, and the patterns you keep experiencing. We focus on your experience, not on labeling the other person.
-
That is completely okay. You do not have to have made any decision about the relationship to start therapy. Many of my clients are still in the relationship when we begin. The goal is not to push you toward a particular outcome. The goal is to help you understand what is happening clearly enough that you can make your own choices from a grounded place.
-
It is never too late. In fact, many people don't begin to understand the impact of a narcissistic parent until they are well into adulthood — often after they find themselves in a relationship that feels uncomfortably familiar. The work of understanding how your family of origin shaped you, and slowly building an identity that is actually yours, is some of the most meaningful work there is.
-
Therapy is a licensed clinical service available to clients located in Arizona. It is open-ended, relational, and emergent — we follow what is alive for you each week. The From Confusion to Clarity coaching program is structured, curriculum-based, and available to anyone anywhere in the world. Both draw on the same clinical depth and specialized training. If you are unsure which is the right fit, we can figure that out together on a free call.
-
It is a real conversation, not a sales call. You share a little about what is bringing you in, I share a little about how I work, and we both get a sense of whether it is a good fit. There is no pressure to commit to anything. If I am not the right person for what you need, I will tell you honestly and help you find someone who is.
You have spent long enough trying to figure out what is wrong with you.
There is nothing wrong with you.
Let's start there.
Book your free 20-minute call now.
Looking for a more structured approach to recovery?
I offer From Confusion to Clarity — a 10-week, curriculum-based coaching program designed specifically for narcissistic abuse recovery. Whether you are an existing therapy client who wants a focused, educational container for this work, or you are located outside of Arizona and looking to work with me in a coaching capacity, this program was built for exactly where you are.